She's been picking up kids late consistently for the past month without even texting me first. When I ask about it she says I'm being controlling. We agreed on 6pm pickups and she shows up at 7 or later. I've asked nicely multiple times. Should I document this or am I overreacting? This is affecting my work schedule and I don't know what to do.
You need to have a calm conversation about this but also be firm. Not texting is disrespectful to your schedule and your time. Set a boundary now before it gets worse.
That's infuriating man. Document everything. Dates, times, how late she is. If this keeps up you might need to go back to the court about it. Don't let this slide.
Start charging her for late pickup. Kidding. Sort of. But seriously talk to her today about it. These patterns get normalized quick if you don't push back.
I feel this in my soul. When my ex did stuff like this it was always 'oh the kids needed me' but really she was just not respecting my time. You have every right to be frustrated.
That's infuriating. Late pickups throw off your whole evening and the kids get confused about what's happening. I'd be tempted to lose it too. Maybe send her a message saying that you need to stick to the schedule because it affects your ability to plan your time and the kids' bedtime routine.
That's frustrating man. I've been dealing with similar stuff and it gets old fast. Have you tried documenting the late pickups and bringing it up calmly when you're not heated? Sometimes putting it in writing helps.
I feel this in my bones. When the schedule gets ignored it throws everything off, especially homework time and bedtime routines. Stay calm but firm about what was agreed to - your kids need consistency.
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This would drive me absolutely crazy. Consistent lateness without communication is disrespectful to you and honestly confusing for the kids because they don't know when to expect to be picked up. Have you tried sending her a text each time laying out the facts? Sometimes documentation helps.
Start documenting these late pickups with dates and times. A month of consistent lateness is a pattern and if this escalates, you'll want that record. Stay calm when you communicate about it but be firm that the schedule needs to be respected.