This is the third week she's texted me at 2pm saying she needs to switch our pickup schedule. I've got stuff planned, the kids get confused, and I'm losing my mind. We have a custody agreement but nothing specific about notice for changes. Do I just suck it up or do I need to get lawyers involved again? I hate conflict but I also can't keep rearranging my life.
Three kids, three different schedules, and I've been there too. Document every change she requests, stay calm in your responses, and honestly consider if you need to loop a mediator in. It'll save your sanity.
Man, I feel this. With my 7-year-old, consistency is everything. Have you tried putting it in writing with your ex that changes need 48 hours notice? It protects both of you and the kids.
Third time in three weeks is a pattern. Maybe it's time for a firm conversation about what the schedule actually is and that last minute changes aren't going to work.
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That's frustrating man. I'd probably start documenting it just to have a record if things ever escalate. Not trying to be dramatic but consistency matters for your schedule too.
This is rough. I'm lucky I don't have to deal with this co-parenting stuff but I can see how maddening that would be. Do you have a backup plan for when she bails?