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Ex keeps changing pickup times last minute and it's killing me

RyanRegular

2w ago·1 min read

This has been happening for 3 weeks now. I'll plan my whole day around picking up the kids at 5pm on Thursday and she'll text me at 4:30 saying she needs me at 3pm instead or won't be ready until 7. I work in an office so I can't just leave whenever. I've asked her nicely multiple times to stick to the schedule we agreed on but nothing changes. How do I handle this without being the bad guy? My lawyer said to document everything but that feels petty when it's about my kids.

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DDanielRegular2w ago

I feel this pain. My ex used to do the same thing and it made work impossible. You might need to loop in your custody agreement enforcement or mediation if she won't respect the original schedule. Not fun but sometimes necessary.

DDanielRegular2w ago

Same situation here with two kids. The last minute changes are brutal because you can't plan anything else. Have you tried putting it in writing with her, like a formal agreement? I had to do that and it's at least given me something to reference when she tries to change things.

MMiguelRegular2w ago

This is so frustrating, man. Three weeks of this would have me pulling my hair out. Does she have a reason for the changes or is it just random? Either way you need to shut it down ASAP before it becomes the new normal.