My ex will text me an hour before scheduled pickup asking to move it. She says it's just her schedule changing but my kids keep asking why their plans keep getting canceled. I want to be flexible but this is happening twice a week now. Do I enforce the court order or keep trying to work with her? Don't want to be that guy but my kids deserve consistency.
That's rough man. The uncertainty is worse for the kids than the actual change sometimes. You might need to have a direct conversation with her about how it's affecting them, not just your schedule.
I deal with the juggling act between two households too, and what helped me was setting firm pickup times and only moving them if there's real advance notice. Your kids need that stability.
Dude this would drive me insane. I work nights so my schedule is already all over the place. If my ex started moving pickup times around I'd lose it. Have you tried putting it in writing that changes need 24 hours notice?
How are your kids handling the last minute changes? That's what would worry me most. Kids need predictability.
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Been there. Started documenting every time she did it and brought it up in our custody agreement review. Sometimes people don't realize how much it affects the kids until it's official.