Ex keeps changing pickup times last minute

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3d ago1 min read

So my ex texts me Wednesday saying she needs to pick up our daughter an hour earlier on Friday because she has plans. This happens every other week. I've got work stuff scheduled, I can't just drop everything. How do I handle this without being the bad guy? Our custody agreement says 5pm but she acts like it's a suggestion.

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MMike T.Regular3d ago

That's frustrating as heck. I'd suggest documenting these last-minute requests so you have a record if it ever becomes an issue. Sets a boundary without being confrontational about it.

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MMark A.Regular3d ago

Man, I feel you on this. With my ex doing the same thing, I finally had to put our pickup times in writing with a clause about 24-hour notice minimum. Takes the emotion out of it and keeps things fair for both of us.

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PPedroRegular3d ago

Yeah, this one's tough because you want to be flexible but she's counting on you to just roll with it. Maybe try texting back that you can make accommodations occasionally but need more notice to plan your week?

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