Ex wants to change custody schedule last minute AGAIN
This is the third time in two months she's asked to swap weekends because of her new boyfriend's schedule. My boys are 7 and 9, and they've finally adjusted to the routine we agreed on in mediation. Every time we switch it up, my older one gets anxious and won't sleep well. I've been accommodating because I don't want to be that guy, but I'm genuinely frustrated now. How many times do I have to be flexible before it's reasonable to just say no? She texts me at like 9pm on Thursday asking about swapping that weekend. It's messing with my planning too—I had activities scheduled.
Been there. Start saying no. I know it feels harsh but every time you accommodate last-minute changes, you're training her that it's negotiable. My coparenting actually improved when I stopped being flexible about this stuff. Weekends are YOUR time with your kids.