Ex wants to switch weekends last minute AGAIN

Dec 271 min read

This is becoming a pattern and I'm losing it. My ex asks to swap weekends literally the day before, and when I say no bc I already made plans with my kids, she acts like I'm being difficult. Last Saturday she texted at 8pm asking if she could take them Sunday instead of Friday. I already had tickets to the science museum booked!

I'm not trying to be rigid about the schedule, but there's a difference between flexibility and being a doormat. The custody agreement clearly states Friday-Sunday is my time. Am I crazy for wanting her to give more notice?

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AAlexRegularDec 28

Document everything. Keep a log with dates and times of every request she makes. When you push back or eventually need to involve a mediator/lawyer, you'll have proof it's a pattern and not just you being difficult. That paper trail saved me during custody modifications.

AAdam J.RegularDec 30

The day before is wild. I'd be losing it too. Start saying no more often unless it's a genuine emergency. You're allowed to have plans and stick to them. Your ex will adjust if there are actual consequences to the requests.

MMarcus T.New DadDec 30

This is textbook disrespect of your time. Co-parenting is supposed to be mutual. If she wants flexibility, that should be planned in advance or involve give and take on your end too, not just her calling shots whenever.

GGene K.RegularDec 30

Is she doing this because she knows you'll cave? I found my ex stopped asking once I established that I had my own life and commitments during my custody time. Might need to hold that boundary even if it gets tense.

PPhil C.RegularDec 30

Have you tried setting a hard deadline like 'any swaps need to be requested by Wednesday for weekend exchanges'? Make it a rule in writing if you can. Last minute changes mess with kids' schedules and expectations too, not just yours.