This is driving me crazy. We agreed on 6pm pickups on Fridays but she's been anywhere from 5:45 to 6:30 every week. I have plans, I coordinate my whole week around this. When I bring it up she acts like I'm being unreasonable. How do you guys handle this without constant conflict? Thinking about documenting everything but that seems petty.
I get it - when you've got plans mapped out, that inconsistency messes with everything. Document the times and maybe bring it up calmly next time you talk about logistics. Consistency matters for the kids too.
That's frustrating, man. Have you tried texting her 30 mins before to confirm she's actually coming? Sometimes a gentle reminder helps keep things on track without being confrontational.
This would drive me nuts too. Maybe suggest being a few mins early is actually better for the kids so nobody's rushing around stressed. Sometimes framing it that way helps with co-parenting stuff.
Document every time she's off schedule. I'm not trying to be a lawyer here but if you ever need to modify the arrangement or show a pattern, you'll need the proof. Consistency matters way more than most people think.
This would drive me absolutely insane. Like I get that stuff happens but 15 minutes early AND 15 minutes late? That's not stuff happening, that's not respecting the plan. Have you thought about maybe doing pickups at a neutral spot instead?
Set a timer for 6pm and make it a rule that you're not waiting past 6:15. Kids need to understand schedules matter. If she's late, that's on her to adjust, not on you to be flexible forever.
Document every single time she's late. I'm not trying to be a jerk about it but if this goes to court later, those notes matter. Screenshot texts, write down times and dates.
That 15 minute window would drive me nuts too. Have you tried putting it in writing again with some flexibility built in? Like 5:50-6:10pm window? Sometimes people respond better when they see it's not rigid but still has boundaries.
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That's so frustrating. The schedule isn't just a suggestion though, it's part of your custody agreement right? Have you tried putting it in writing again or does she claim traffic is the issue?
Man that's rough. I'd be stressed every Friday at 5:55 wondering if she's going to be early, late, or somewhere in between. Kids need to know what to expect too.