This is my third time writing this because I'm so frustrated. We have a 50/50 arrangement but she keeps texting asking to swap weekends last minute. Half the time it works out but the other half I have plans or the kids get confused about whose house they're at. I've tried being flexible but it's starting to feel like I don't have a real schedule at all. Should I push back or am I being unreasonable?
Sorry you're in this spot. That inconsistency is hard on everyone but especially the kids. Might be time to revisit the custody arrangement officially if she's not respecting the current one.
This situation sucks. The custody order is there for a reason. Have you had a direct conversation with her about why she keeps changing things or is that just not possible at this point?
That's exhausting and honestly kind of disrespectful to your kids. They need consistency and she's not giving it to them or you. Document everything and talk to your lawyer about enforcement options. You shouldn't have to keep fighting for what's already on paper.
I'd be frustrated too. Kids need predictability even more than we do. That chaos affects them too, not just your schedule.
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This is brutal man. You're dealing with the same thing a buddy of mine went through. Document everything, dates and times when she doesn't follow the schedule. If it gets worse you might need to bring it to the court's attention.
I feel this. 50/50 only works if both people are actually on board with it. Have you tried just texting her a clear schedule reminder before each handoff? Sometimes writing it out helps.