Ex won't stick to the schedule

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1w ago1 min read

We've been divorced for 2 years and have a decent co-parenting relationship but lately my ex keeps asking to swap weeks or pick them up early. Usually I say yes because I want to be the cool guy, but now I'm realizing I'm the one whose schedule is unpredictable and the kids are getting confused. I need to set a boundary but I don't want to be the bad guy. How do I handle this without starting drama?

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LLuis H.New Dad1w ago

I deal with this constantly with my three. The key is being willing to adjust sometimes but also protecting your scheduled time. Kids actually do better when they know the plan. Document the requests in a co-parenting app if it keeps happening - helps keep things fair and clear.

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MMarkNew Dad1w ago

That's a tough spot. Two years in and she's changing the rhythm you both agreed on. I'd suggest having a calm conversation about what's driving the swaps - sometimes there's something deeper going on. Keep it about what works for the kids though.

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JJamesRegular1w ago

With three kids and a schedule, I get how important consistency is for everyone's sanity. Maybe set a boundary like swaps need 48 hours notice and only happen once a month or something. Keeps things flexible but not chaotic.

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