Ex Won't Stick to the Schedule - What Are My Options?

1w ago1 min read

This is driving me crazy. We agreed on Tuesday and Friday pickups. She's now canceling or changing the times constantly with like an hour's notice. I get that life happens but I'm trying to plan my work schedule around this and I'm starting to look unreliable to my boss. I don't want to go back to court over this but I'm running out of patience. Our lawyer said I could file a modification but that seems extreme. Has anyone dealt with a similar situation where the other parent just doesn't respect the agreement? How did you handle it?

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SSam T.Regular1w ago

Document everything man, seriously. Screenshot those texts, keep a log of every cancellation with times. If it keeps happening, that's leverage if you ever need to adjust custody arrangements. Been there with my daughter's mom and having records saved me.

BBrad K.New Dad1w ago

Hour notice is brutal for planning your week around her. Have you tried sending a calm text saying last minute changes stress you out and asking her to stick to the schedule? Sometimes just naming it helps, but if she keeps ignoring it, you may need to talk to a lawyer about enforcement.

DDanielRegular1w ago

This is frustrating but stay calm about it when the kids ask. They pick up on the tension way more than we think. Keep reinforcing that both parents love them even when the schedule gets weird.

CCarlos M.New Dad1w ago

Documentation is your friend here. Every time she cancels or changes, write it down with dates and times. If this keeps happening, that paper trail becomes important if you ever need to go back to court. I hate saying it that way but it protects you and the kids.

KKevin M.New Dad1w ago

Have you tried the co-parenting apps yet? I know it sounds like overkill but having everything in writing really does change the dynamic. No more he said she said situations.