Finally got 50/50 custody - feeling relieved and guilty at the same time | DadHQ

Finally got 50/50 custody - feeling relieved and guilty at the same time

2w ago1 min read

Won't go into all the details but it was a long legal battle. I have my kids 50% of the time now which is what I wanted. The thing is I feel kind of guilty about it even though I know I did nothing wrong. My ex is telling people I 'took her kids away' and now my oldest is picking up on the tension. Anyone else go through this? How did you get past the guilt and help your kids understand this wasn't about them?

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RRonRegular2w ago

The relief and guilt combo is real. I've been through something similar and honestly the guilt lessens once you realize 50/50 gives your kids the best of both parents instead of a stressed out co-parent trying to squeeze everything into less time. You did the right thing.

VVincentRegular2w ago

That's a tough emotional spot but you earned this. The fact that you're feeling conflicted shows you care about your kids more than the outcome of a custody battle. Use this time to be the best version of yourself for them when they're with you.

MMiles B.Regular2w ago

Congrats on getting to 50/50, that's huge. The guilt fades once you realize you're giving your kids more of what they actually need, which is time with both parents who want to be there. Lean into those days you have them.

ZZack M.Regular2w ago

That guilt is actually a good sign because it means you care about being present for them. The hard part's over with the legal stuff, now you just get to focus on making those days count. You've got this.

MMiguelRegular2w ago

Congrats, man. That guilt is normal but it'll fade. You fought for this so you could be fully present with your kids, and that's what matters. You're not leaving them when they're with mom - they're with their mom like they should be. Take the win.

MMiguelRegular2w ago

Long legal battles wear you down. Congratulations on getting to a fair split. That guilt you're feeling will transform into something better once you settle into the new routine - it's just the aftermath of a rough process.