Finally got custody agreement we both can live with

1w ago1 min read

After 8 months of back and forth with lawyers we finally signed off on 50/50 custody with alternating weeks. Yeah it cost us way more money than either of us wanted to spend but at least now we both know exactly what's happening and when. My ex and I aren't friends but we're not enemies anymore either. Biggest thing that helped was when we both agreed to stop using the kids as messengers. Lawyer told us to get a co-parenting app and honestly it's been a game changer. Just wanted to post this to say it does get better.

9 comments229 views

Comments(9)

MMark T.New Dad6d ago

This is the finish line most of us are chasing. Alternating weeks gives the kids real stability with both parents. How are you planning the transitions with them?

CChris M.New Dad1w ago

That must feel like a weight off. Once the agreement is signed you can actually focus on the kids instead of the lawyers.

BBradRegular1w ago

50/50 custody with alternating weeks is solid. Glad you came out the other side with something that works for everyone.

FFrank T.Regular1w ago

Congrats on getting it done. I've chaperoned enough field trips to know that consistency matters way more than the money you spent getting there. Your kids are gonna benefit from having two present parents.

HHenry M.Regular1w ago

That 50/50 agreement is gold, man. Yeah the legal fees hurt but you're setting yourself up for success with the kids in the long run. Alternating weeks gives everyone a real rhythm.

BBenNew Dad1w ago

That must have been exhausting but you made it work. The kids got two parents committed to being fair about it which is what matters most. That took patience.

BBrandonNew Dad1w ago

Congrats on getting to 50/50 with alternating weeks. Eight months of lawyers is brutal but having it locked in probably feels like a weight off your shoulders finally.

BBrianRegular6d ago

50/50 with alternating weeks is one of the better setups for older kids especially. Less switching between houses, more stable with each parent. Glad you both got reasonable about it.

BBrianRegular1w ago

Eight months of lawyer back and forth is brutal. Congrats on getting to a place you both can actually live with. That's the real win.