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Getting kids to adjust between two houses is harder than I thought

3d ago·1 min read

Custody agreement has them switching every other week. My oldest is 9 and seems fine with it but my 6yo keeps asking why she has to have two rooms or asking to go back to the other house. It breaks my heart. My ex and I are civil so that helps but the actual logistics are rough. Packing different stuff for each house, remembering which house has which things. I'm worried about how this is affecting them long term but I don't know what else to do.

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KKevin M.New Dad2d ago

The 9 year old probably gets the logistics of it better even if he doesn't like it. The younger ones need way more stability language. We had to explain ours over and over that both houses are theirs and switching isn't punishment.

AAntonioRegular2d ago

Every other week is a tough schedule for adjustment. Does your oldest help the younger ones through the transitions at all?

MMarco R.New Dad2d ago

How are the younger ones handling it? That's where the real struggle usually is.

DDavid M.New Dad1d ago

It gets easier but you have to be really consistent about routines on both sides. If the rhythms are too different it confuses them more.