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Holiday rotation is killing me this year
Hank C.Regular
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So according to our agreement: she gets Thanksgiving odd years, I get Thanksgiving even years. I get Christmas morning, she gets Christmas afternoon (which is honestly terrible). New Year's alternates. My kids are 8 and 11. This year my parents are all gathering for Christmas for probably the last time—my grandpa is in his 90s—and I only get morning time. I asked if we could do one year off rotation and she said no because it's not how the agreement works. I don't want to go back to court over this but it sucks feeling like logistics trump family moments, you know?
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I'm gonna be real with you—your ex sounds like she's being unnecessarily rigid, but also? The agreement exists for a reason and she probably doesn't want to set a precedent of "special circumstances = we renegotiate." That said, your grandpa being 90 is literally the definition of a special circumstance. Have you tried framing it as a one-time exception specifically tied to his health/age rather than just asking to break the rotation? Sometimes co-parents respond better when they don't feel like they're opening the door to constant requests.