Holiday schedule agreement - what actually works?

Coming up on our first holiday season split and we're already butting heads. She wants Thanksgiving day, I want Christmas day. We both want New Year's. Three kids (ages 6, 10, 14).

I proposed:

• Alternate years (odd/even) for the major days
• Both present for Thanksgiving morning at a neutral location
• Holiday break weeks split differently from school weeks

She hasn't responded in 5 days which is her way of saying no without saying no.

What have you guys actually done that doesn't suck? I'm trying to think about this from the kids' perspective, not just what I want. My 14-year-old already told me she doesn't want to be "shuffled" so much.