My ex went back to school and her income dropped, so she's asking me to reduce child support. I'm not trying to be difficult but I've had increased expenses too. My lawyer says we have to go back to court to modify it. Has anyone dealt with this? I want to be fair but also need to make sure my kids are taken care of when they're with me.
That's a tough spot. I'd say get everything documented and maybe talk to a lawyer about modification since both your situations have changed. It's not being difficult, it's just being fair to everyone involved.
Co-parenting money stuff is never easy. If her income genuinely dropped, a modification might make sense, but you gotta make sure your own expenses are covered too. Don't short yourself trying to be the nice guy.
I'd recommend talking to a family law attorney before you agree to anything. I know it costs money upfront but it saves problems down the road. Co-parenting requires clear boundaries and communication, and a legal framework helps with that.
Going back to school is good and all, but you shouldn't have to take a hit just because she's investing in her future. That's awesome for her but the kids' needs don't change. Get it in writing whatever you agree to, even if you do reduce it.
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This is tricky territory. On one hand I get that her situation changed, but child support is based on the child's needs not just her income. Has she looked into modifying it through the court? That's the official way to handle it instead of informal agreements.
The money situation is complicated because you want to be fair but you also have to protect yourself and make sure the kids are taken care of. Her going back to school is a long term investment that'll benefit everyone eventually, but right now the kids still need what they need.