How do you handle different rules at each house?

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3w ago1 min read

My ex is way more strict than I am. Bedtimes are earlier at her place, less screen time, stricter rules on junk food. My kids were complaining that it's not fair. I don't want to undermine her parenting but I also don't want to be the bad cop. Is it normal for kids to have different rules at different houses or should we be on the same page? Looking for advice from anyone dealing with similar stuff.

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RRonRegular3w ago

This is always the tricky part of co-parenting. My ex is stricter too and I've learned to just let my house be my house rules and hers be hers. Kids are smarter than we think and they adjust.

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JJason B.New Dad3w ago

Kids are flexible. They figure out that different houses have different rules pretty quickly. Just make sure you're consistent within your own house and don't use the differences as a way to be the cool parent.

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MMatteoRegular3w ago

It's tough because you don't want to contradict what the other parent is doing, but you also want your place to feel like home. We've found that having a calm conversation about the big stuff helps. Bedtimes and screen time are worth talking through.

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