My ex has been dating someone for a few months and now he's starting to pick the kids up sometimes. My son mentioned he slept over at her place a few times when they had the kids. This is bugging me more than I expected. Ex says it's fine and within the custody agreement but I feel weird about it. Am I being unreasonable here or is this something I should address?
That's tough. We went through something similar and I realized the key is staying calm and asking your ex questions about it first. Finding out details from your son is one thing, but a direct conversation helps way more.
My daughter mentioned her mom's boyfriend way before I was ready to hear about it, so I get that feeling. Just keep the door open with your kids to talk about their experiences. They need to know you're there regardless.
I get it, this sucks. But honestly if he's being responsible and treating your kids well, that's what matters most. Talk to your ex about boundaries and what feels comfortable for you. Communication is everything in co-parenting.
This is tough man. I've been there with the custody thing and it's weird when a new person starts being around your kids. The main thing is making sure the guy isn't a jerk and that he's not trying to overstep. You have every right to be cautious about it.
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How old are your kids? That matters a lot here. My two are still pretty young and I just try to focus on being the best dad I can be on my time instead of worrying too much about who she's seeing. Easier said than done though.
Tough spot man. Just remember the kids are going to pick up on your reaction to this. Keep it civil with your ex and focus on being present when you have them. That's all you can really control.