I get the kids every weekend but my ex handles all the school logistics. I found out about a teacher conference from my oldest and it kills me that I wasn't included. We're pretty amicable for the most part but I don't know how to bring this up without sounding like I'm questioning her ability to handle things. Any tips on how to stay involved without creating conflict?
I feel you on this one. I started asking for the school calendar directly and requesting that my ex loop me in on any conferences or updates. Took some awkward conversations but it helped me stay in the loop.
This is tricky territory. If you're not the primary custodian you don't get copied on everything but you definitely should know about major stuff like teacher meetings. Did your ex just forget to tell you or was she intentionally leaving you out?
Weekends only is tough because you miss so much during the week. Have you asked about getting copies of all school communications sent to you too? That might be something to bring up in mediation if it comes up.
I've run into this too and it's frustrating. Even though my ex has primary custody I made it clear I need to be in the loop on school stuff. We set up a shared email for school updates so nobody can claim they didn't tell the other person.
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That's rough finding out second hand. Have you tried reaching out to the school directly and asking them to copy you on communications? Most teachers are happy to do it once they know the situation.