How do you handle the school stuff when you're not the primary custodian
I get the kids every weekend but my ex handles all the school logistics. I found out about a teacher conference from my oldest and it kills me that I wasn't included. We're pretty amicable for the most part but I don't know how to bring this up without sounding like I'm questioning her ability to handle things. Any tips on how to stay involved without creating conflict?
That's rough finding out second hand. Have you tried reaching out to the school directly and asking them to copy you on communications? Most teachers are happy to do it once they know the situation.