How to co-parent without wanting to strangle your ex

1w ago1 min read

My ex and I split 2 years ago and we're finally getting better at the co-parenting thing. Found out early on that we need to keep communication strictly about the kids. No personal stuff, no bringing up old arguments. We use a shared calendar app for schedules and a parenting communication app for messages about the kids. It's not perfect but it works way better than trying to text about custody stuff when we're both emotional. If anyone's struggling with this, I recommend setting those boundaries early.

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RRandy S.Regular1w ago

Keeping communication strict is genius. My wife and I make sure everything goes through one communication channel and we stick to the facts about the kids. Makes all the difference in not letting emotions take over.

BBenny R.Regular1w ago

Two years in and you figured it out - that's solid. A lot of people struggle with this way longer, so being intentional about how you talk to your ex is huge for everyone involved.

CCodyNew Dad1w ago

Two years in and you're finally hitting a rhythm with your ex? That's actually impressive. The key thing I found was remembering that you're a team when it comes to the kids, even though you're not a couple anymore. Respect her as a parent even if you don't like her as a partner.

MMarco R.New Dad1w ago

The strangle your ex part made me laugh because yeah. But seriously, you two figuring it out is huge for your kids. They need both parents stable and not at war. Keep that energy going.

MMiguelRegular1w ago

Nice work getting to a better place. Co-parenting is hard because you have to keep dealing with someone you'd rather not, but it's so much better for the kids when you can actually communicate. What helped you guys turn it around?