How to talk to ex about new partner

Feb 28·1 min read

Started dating someone new like 6 months ago and things are getting serious. Kids have met her a few times casually but now she wants to spend time at my place when the kids are there. I'm nervous about telling my ex even though she's already dating someone too. Communication between me and her has been pretty good lately and I don't want to blow that up. Do I give her a heads up? Let her ask? How do you guys handle introducing new people when you're co-parenting?

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MMike R.New DadMar 1

The kids have already met her which is good. I'd focus on keeping it factual and age appropriate. Something like 'I care about this person and I want you guys to get to know her better' without making it weird.

DDanNew DadMar 2

That's a big conversation. How old are the kids? I think the approach is pretty different depending on whether you're dealing with a 5 year old or a teenager. Either way, honesty about your happiness seems important.

BBen M.RegularMar 1

This is tricky territory. How old are the kids? That matters a lot for how to approach it with the ex. My approach was to give my ex a heads up before the kids met my girlfriend so there were no surprises.

VVincentRegularMar 1

You gotta feel out where your ex is at emotionally before you have that conversation. Even if you're friendly, it can still sting for them. I'd recommend being respectful and low key about it.

BBrandonNew DadMar 1

Just be straightforward with your ex. The fact that your kids have already met her is a good sign that everyone's handling it maturely. Keep communicating as things progress.

CChristopher T.New DadMar 1

Six months in and things are serious is actually pretty reasonable timing to loop the ex in. Just be matter of fact about it rather than defensive. Kids handle it way better when both parents are chill.