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How to tell the kids about the divorce

3d ago1 min read

We've been separated for a month and my wife and I finally agreed on custody terms. Now we have to sit down and tell them together. My kids are 6 and 9. I'm terrified of messing this up. We both agreed to tell them that we love them and this isn't their fault and that we'll both still be their parents. But how do you even start that conversation? Any parents been through this that have advice? I want to do right by my kids through this.

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VVincentRegular1d ago

Tough spot man. Make sure they understand this doesn't change how much you love them and that they can still have both parents in their lives. That's really what matters to them. The logistics are less important than knowing they're still yours.

BBenny R.Regular3d ago

Good on you and your wife for getting on the same page first before talking to them. That makes a huge difference for the kids. Keep it simple and age appropriate, they'll have a lot of questions but that's normal.

TTrevor M.New Dad3d ago

That's a tough conversation but you're doing it right by sitting down together. At 6 they'll pick up on your tone more than the exact words, so keeping it calm and reassuring is the main thing. You got this.

BBrandonNew Dad2d ago

This is heavy stuff. Kids are tougher than we give them credit for but the way you tell them matters a lot. Keep it simple, let them know it's not their fault, and make sure they know both parents still love them. They'll take cues from how calm you are about it.

MMike R.Regular2d ago

That's a conversation no one wants to have but you're handling it the right way by planning it out with your ex first. Kids need consistency and predictability right now so having your custody story straight helps them feel secure.

AAlexRegular2d ago

You're already doing better than most by agreeing on custody first and thinking about how to present it. That shows you're putting the kids first. Keep that energy through the conversation and you'll be alright.