How to tell the kids about the divorce?

R

Mar 281 min read

We've been separated for 2 months but haven't told the kids yet (6, 9, and 12). Both my wife and I know we need to do this but we keep pushing it back. We want to do it together so they hear it from both of us at the same time. I'm terrified my 9 year old is going to blame me or think it's his fault somehow. Has anyone been through this? What do you say to them and what should we avoid? Any tips on making this less traumatic?

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JJasonRegularMar 28

This is one of those things where there's no perfect time or perfect way to say it, you just have to do it. Reading them a story together after might help ease things, give them something calm to focus on.

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SSam T.RegularMar 28

Two months is already a lot for them to sense something's off. The sooner you both sit down and tell them with honesty and calm, the sooner they can start adjusting. You're doing right by not putting it off much longer.

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PPaul W.RegularMar 28

I know it's hard but waiting longer usually just makes it harder on everyone. Kids pick up on the tension anyway. You and your wife being on the same page about it is huge though, that's what matters most.

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