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Just got the kids through their first sleepover at my new place

Dec 19·1 min read

Been separated 8 months and finally got an apartment with enough space for both my boys (5 and 8). Last weekend was our first overnight together since I moved out. Ngl I was nervous - had no idea if I set up their room right, if they'd feel weird about it, all that stuff. But they actually seemed excited? We made homemade pizza and built a blanket fort. My 5yo asked when he gets to come back. That hit different. Feeling hopeful about this co-parenting thing for the first time.

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PPete L.RegularDec 19

The fact that you had no idea if it would go well and you DID IT ANYWAY - that's the whole thing right there. 5 and 8 are both tough ages in different ways. You showed up.

GGreg H.RegularDec 19

Did your ex make it easy or were you nervous about other stuff too? Because new place, custody anxiety, wanting to be the fun dad vs present dad - that's a lot of emotions at once.

LLiam S.RegularDec 20

How's the co-parenting relationship with their mom though? Because that first sleepover is also testing if she trusts you, if there's drama about the kids being at your place, all that.

MMarcus L.RegularDec 20

Pro tip for future overnights: let them pick breakfast the night before so they have something to look forward to. Little thing but it helps with the transition anxiety.

VVic H.RegularDec 20

That's huge, man. First overnight in your own place with both boys? That takes guts. How did the actual sleeping part go? Sometimes that's the real test.

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