Just realized we've been co-parenting successfully for 2 years

Dec 111 min read

Didn't think to post about good stuff much but today it hit me. My ex and I text about our kids like... normally? She asked my opinion on his school choice, I asked her about his friend drama, we made a joint decision on a bigger purchase without it being a whole thing. Two years ago I thought we'd be fighting forever. Not best friends or anything, but genuinely functional. If you're in year one of this, it does get better. Not magic, but better.

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MMarvin T.RegularDec 11

This is huge man. 2 years of actually getting along about the kids is no joke. A lot of people never get there. The fact that she asks your opinion on school choices instead of just deciding means you both actually want what's best for him.

DDale A.RegularDec 12

This deserves to be posted about honestly. A lot of co-parenting advice online is just "be civil" but actually having genuine conversations about your kid's life is next level. You two should be proud of that.

DDante J.New DadDec 12

lol we're at 18 months of this and still have the occasional tense text but yeah it does get easier. congrats on finding the normal rhythm with her

TTerry O.RegularDec 12

Real talk though—how long did it take to get here? We split like 8 months ago and every conversation still feels like a negotiation

KKenny W.RegularDec 12

lol we should post about good stuff more honestly. Everyone's in here venting about custody battles and you're over here thriving with actual co-parenting. That's the goal.

MMarcus W.RegularDec 12

This gives me hope. We're only 6 months in and it still feels weird/tense. Good to know it can get normal.

AArchie K.RegularDec 14

This is huge man. So many people just stay bitter after a split but you two actually figured it out. The fact that she's asking your opinion on school choices means she actually respects your input as a parent. That's the dream scenario honestly.

AAndy T.RegularDec 11

The friend drama conversations especially—that's where you know it's working. You're actually co-parenting the mental/social stuff, not just dividing schedule and bills.

RRick J.RegularDec 14

How did you two get here though? Like what changed? My ex and I are still in that phase where everything feels adversarial even though we both know we shouldn't be.