After 2 years of back and forth with lawyers, we finally agreed on terms last week. 50/50 custody, he got the house, I'm getting the garage turned apartment situation squared away this month. I'm relieved but also terrified about doing this solo half the time. Any dads here been through the first few months post-divorce? What should I expect?
Congratulations on getting through it, man. That's a battle. 50/50 custody is a good outcome but now comes the hard part - building a stable routine for your kid in two homes. Take a breath though. You made it.
Two years is a long haul. How are the kids handling the transition? That's usually the hardest part for me to navigate with mine.
Congrats on getting through that process, man. The back and forth is brutal. Now the real work starts - staying organized with the schedule and keeping things civil. You got this.
This is big. Now focus on being the most consistent, reliable parent you can be. Your kid's going to need stability from at least one side of this equation. Document your parenting time, be on time for pickups, follow through on your stuff.
I can't imagine being two years into that process. First thing I'd say is get yourself set up properly at your place so your kid has a space that feels like home, not just a weekend hangout spot. Make it YOUR place for them.
Real talk, the paperwork ending is actually when the real work begins. You're going to have rough days but you're also going to create an amazing relationship with your kid through this. Take it one week at a time.
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50/50 is solid. First thing I'd do is set up a co-parenting app like OurFamilyWizard or Talking Parents if you aren't already. Keeps all communication documented and takes emotion out of logistics. Game changer for us.