Kids asking why mommy and daddy live separate

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11h ago1 min read

My 5 and 7 year old are finally asking the direct question. We kept thinking they'd just accept it as normal but now they want to know why we don't live together. My ex and I split on mostly good terms but I don't know what the right answer is here. Do you keep it simple or try to explain things? I don't want to bad mouth their mom but I also don't want to lie.

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MMarcus T.New Dadjust now

We had this talk with ours at almost the same ages. Honestly the best advice I got was to keep it about logistics and love, not reasons or blame. Kids that young don't need all the details.

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EEvan M.New Dadjust now

This is one of the hardest conversations you'll have. Keep it simple at their age - focus on what they can understand without oversharing. Something like 'sometimes grown-ups live in different houses but we both love you the same.' The key is reassuring them it's not their fault.

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BBrandonNew Dad1h ago

That's the big one. Make sure they hear from both of you separately that it's not because of anything they did. And then just be consistent with the schedule so they feel secure.

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