Been tracking all shared expenses (activities, medical, school stuff) in OFW and at the end of the month I send her an itemized breakdown. Before I was just... eating costs and seething about it. Now it's all documented and we can actually split things fairly without the awkwardness. Sounds boring but seriously, if you're not using that feature, start.
OurFamilyWizard is overpriced but honestly it's one of those things where the cost is worth not having arguments. We used to fight about who paid for what every single month.
Seriously underrated LPT. So many co-parenting conflicts are just about money and resentment building up. Having it documented and split fairly takes out SO much emotion.
game changer but also the shared calendar alone is worth it. No more miscommunications about pickup times.
This is the way. No more "wait did she say she'd pay for soccer or am I paying for soccer?" Everything is in writing. How does she usually respond when you send the itemized breakdowns?
How do you handle when she disagrees about what should be split? Like do you split medical 50/50 or does it vary? Trying to figure out the fairest way to set this up.
I tried this exact approach and my ex said it made her feel 'nickel and dimed.' Some people just don't want to deal with the logistics even when it's fair. That said, you did the right thing by being clear and documented.
The documentation piece is actually the smartest part. Even if she doesn't pay, you have proof if you go to court. That matters.
Does OFW handle if she just doesn't pay her half though? Like what's your recourse if she sees the breakdown and just ignores it?
Okay but tracking everything in OFW and then what, emailing it to her every month? That seems like a lot of work. How long does the breakdown actually take you?
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This is actually genius and I'm annoyed I didn't think of it sooner. We've been having low-key resentment for years over me paying for stuff and her 'forgetting' to reimburse. An itemized breakdown takes all the emotion out of it.