Mediation worked way better than I expected
Honestly was dreading going through mediation but our mediator was really good. Got us to agree on a custody schedule that actually works for both of us and the kids. Still not easy seeing my daughter go back and forth but at least now there's structure and we're not fighting about it constantly. If anyone's going through divorce right now, I'd say try mediation before court. Cost way less and felt less hostile than arguing with lawyers.
What kind of things did your mediator do that actually worked? I'm thinking about suggesting it to my ex but want to know what to expect first.