She texts me constantly about what the kids ate, how practice went, what show they watched. I get wanting to stay connected but it feels excessive. I told her to use the co-parenting app but she ignores it. When I don't respond right away she gets mad. How do I set boundaries here without being the bad guy?
This might be worth bringing up with a mediator if you guys have one. Constant texting like that can actually be a co-parenting issue that needs boundaries set in your agreement. Just saying.
I feel this. My ex does the same thing. I finally told her we could do a quick 15 minute call on Wednesday nights to catch up on non-urgent stuff. Saves my sanity and actually gives us a scheduled thing instead of random blowing up my phone all day.
Set boundaries now or this will drive you insane. What show they watched? That's not emergency info. My ex used to do this and I finally told her we'd do a quick call Sunday night to catch up on the week instead. Reduced texts by like 80 percent.
Set up a boundary dude. Tell her texts are for emergencies only and set a specific time like Sunday evening when you'll check in about the week. What they ate for lunch really doesn't need a text alert.
I get the frustration but also try to see it from her side for a second - she's probably anxious about missing things when the kids are with you. That said, constant updates aren't healthy for either of you. Maybe suggest a weekly check-in call instead of blow-by-blow texts?
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Oh man, the constant texting is real. I think some of it is her trying to stay connected to the kids even when they're with you, but yeah there's a line. We set up a schedule - she can text about actual stuff but non-emergencies get answered once a day. Helped a lot.