Going from 50/50 to every other weekend and one weeknight. The lawyer said it was a fair arrangement but it doesn't feel fair. I keep running through the math in my head trying to figure out how many days I'm losing. Anyone else struggle with this transition? I want to do what's best for the kids but man this is harder than I thought.
Going from 50/50 to every other weekend is tough. Sounds like they're changing your arrangement though, not taking custody away completely. What triggered the change?
The lawyer said fair but how do YOU feel about it? Because that's what matters most. Make sure you're taking care of yourself during this change too. It affects your mental health just as much as theirs.
That's a big transition, man. Going from 50/50 to every other weekend is tough to process. How are you feeling about the one weeknight? Is that something you can actually make work with your schedule?
I get the freak out. That's a significant change in how much time you get to spend with your kid. Give yourself some grace while you adjust to the new routine.
That feeling is totally normal, man. I went through something similar and honestly the first month was rough emotionally even though the arrangement made sense on paper. Give yourself time to adjust before you decide how you really feel about it.
The weeknight visits are actually gold though - that's time for homework help, dinner together, real connection stuff. I know it doesn't feel like enough right now, but you'll make those days count.
Hang in there man. The first few weeks after a change like this are the hardest mentally. Focus on quality over quantity with your kids.
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That's a big adjustment but you've got this. The weeknight is key because you stay in the routine. Make it count with real time together.