Been divorced 8 months now. We're doing 50/50 which sounds fair but I'm exhausted. One week on one week off and I feel like I'm never catching a rhythm. Every time I'm getting settled she's back to switch again. Anyone else feel like the arrangement works on paper but feels chaotic in reality?
Eight months in is still fresh. Your body and brain are still adjusting to the rhythm. Have you tried using a parenting app to coordinate with your ex? Takes emotion out of the communication and everything is documented.
50/50 sounds good on paper but man, the transitions are brutal. I'm dealing with something similar and what helped me was setting up a shared calendar app so both of you can see exactly what's happening each week. Reduces the mental load of remembering whose week it is.
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The exhaustion is real. I vacuum daily just to have something I can control, and honestly the same applies to custody schedules. You can't control what happens on her weeks but you can control your week. Make those days count and don't stress the off weeks as much.