Started dating someone 3 months ago and it's getting serious. My ex is already threatening to use it against me in court saying I'm 'exposing the kids to an unstable environment.' We haven't even met the kids yet. Is she just trying to scare me or do I actually need to worry about this affecting my custody arrangement? We have 50/50 right now.
Been through something similar with my ex. Document everything with your girlfriend - keep it low-key around the kids at first, stick to the custody schedule, and let your actions speak louder than her threats. Courts see through this stuff.
3 months is still pretty new, so maybe pump the brakes on big introductions for now. Your ex is scared, which is why she's lashing out. Stay the course and keep being the dad you've always been.
Three months is still early but I get the concern. Your ex probably feels threatened honestly. The key is keeping the kids totally separate from the relationship stuff and not changing the custody dynamic. Document everything anyway just to be safe.
She's probably just worried about her place in things. The custody agreement is solid, you've got this. Just introduce the girlfriend slowly to the kids and keep everything above board.
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Don't let her scare you. As long as you're being a good dad and your girlfriend isn't negatively affecting the kids, she doesn't have much ground to stand on. Just keep things professional and don't give her ammunition.