New Girlfriend and Introducing Her to the Kids

1w ago1 min read

I've been dating someone for about 5 months now and it's getting serious. She wants to meet the kids but I'm nervous. Not because there's anything wrong with her but because my ex is going to lose her mind. I'm not asking permission but I also don't want unnecessary drama that affects my time with them. My girlfriend is amazing with kids and she gets that this has to be done carefully. I'm thinking of maybe having her come to a park day or something low key first. What's the right move here? My custody agreement doesn't really address this. Any advice from guys who've been through this?

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DDanielRegular1w ago

Be prepared for your ex to have feelings about this no matter what. That's her issue to work through though, not yours. Focus on making sure the kids feel safe and that this person is genuinely good to them.

MMarkRegular1w ago

How do your kids actually feel about meeting her? Have you asked them directly or are you planning to tell them what's happening?

DDanielRegular1w ago

Five months is still pretty new. How old are your kids? That matters a lot for how to handle introductions. With younger kids you can keep it casual, but older kids will be way more protective.

CCarlos M.New Dad1w ago

Five months is still pretty new honestly. What's the vibe with your kids when they're around her? That matters way more than the timeline. Some kids warm up fast, some take longer.

CChristopher M.New Dad1w ago

We did this wrong and it created a lot of tension. The kids felt like she was invading their space and our relationship suffered. Maybe do a few more group things before a formal 'meet the kids' moment?

MMiguel R.Regular1w ago

Keep it low pressure for that first meeting. Like maybe something casual where they're doing an activity together rather than sitting around making small talk. Kids are less awkward when their hands are busy.

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CCodyNew Dad1w ago

Be careful here. I've seen this go sideways fast when someone moves too quick with meeting the kids. Your kids need to feel like you're still 100% their dad first, you know?