New Schedule Issues with Ex

1d ago·1 min read

So my ex moved and now the drive for pickup is 45 minutes instead of 15. We agreed to 50/50 custody but this schedule isn't working anymore. She wants to shift pickups to Sunday instead of Friday to make it easier. I don't want to lose Friday nights with the kids. How do I bring this up without starting a war? We've been civil but I'm worried this is going to blow up. Any advice on handling schedule changes respectfully?

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ZZack M.Regular1d ago

That's rough, man. The schedule change really does throw everything off. Have you two talked about adjusting the split to account for drive time, like maybe swapping a weekday for a weekend day?

RRick J.Regular1d ago

45 minutes each way is brutal. I've been in similar situations with the custody stuff and honestly communication early helps way more than getting stuck in a bad arrangement. Might be worth revisiting the agreement.

DDannyNew Dad1d ago

That's a significant change from what you originally agreed to. I'd definitely want to revisit the custody agreement to account for the new logistics. Maybe alternating who does the drive or meeting in the middle?

MManuelRegular20h ago

Man that's tough. When I was doing those kinds of long pickups I had to rework my whole schedule around it. Definitely worth sitting down and figuring out what works for everyone, not just splitting the difference.

VVincentNew Dad17h ago

Ouch. Is she open to adjusting the schedule since she's the one who moved? That drive is killing your time with the kids.

BBenNew Dad14h ago

45 minutes vs 15 is rough. That's almost 2 hours a week just in extra driving. I'd be pushing to adjust the schedule or meet halfway if possible. Have you suggested that to your ex?