I'm trying something different this year - instead of texting about logistics, I'm using a shared Google Calendar and only texting for actual emergencies. It's been 3 weeks and already I feel less stressed. Less room for tone to be misinterpreted when it's just dates and times. Has anyone else gone more "business-like" with their ex communications?
how do you handle like actual urgent stuff though? like kid gets sick at school and needs pickup asap? does she check the calendar constantly?
This is genius. The calendar thing removes so much emotion from logistics. How do you handle like last-minute stuff though? Like if pickup time changes that day?
The less stress part is so real - it's not personal anymore, just logistics. Does this help when you guys disagree about something though? Like custody swaps or schedule changes?
lol I need this. Currently it's 47 unread texts with my ex about who's picking up when. Does your ex actually use the calendar or did you have to set it up and they just ignore it?
I tried this and my ex never actually checked the calendar lol. Ended up texting about the calendar entries anyway. Your co-parent has to actually buy in
wait this actually might work with my situation. do you color code it by kid or by activity type?
This is genius. The calendar thing is exactly what I need to stop doing the "did you see my text from 2 hours ago" dance with my ex
Been doing something similar for 6 months and honestly the best part is not having a thread of 47 texts about whether soccer is Saturday or Sunday. Just look at the calendar. Game changer
Been doing something similar for 6 months and honestly the reduction in stress is wild. Stopped having those 8pm panic spirals about whether she got the message about tomorrow's dentist thing. It's just... there.
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trying this starting next month. My coparent is not great with organization so I'm nervous but at this point texting about it every time isn't working either