OUR PARENTING STYLES ARE COMPLETELY DIFFERENT AND I'M LOSING IT

She lets the kids stay up til 10pm on school nights and eat cereal for lunch. CEREAL FOR LUNCH. Then Monday morning rolls around and they're absolute demons because they're sleep deprived. I have them on a strict bedtime (8:30), they eat real meals, and they're thriving.

But apparently I'm being a "control freak" about it. They're with me for 4 days a week, and those are the most stable 4 days of their schedule. Why can't she see that?

I know we're supposed to pick our battles but this feels like the core stuff. Do I just... accept that half the time they're living like feral animals?