Pro tip: Talking to kids about new girlfriend

Just wanted to share something that worked for us. Instead of just springing my new girlfriend on my kids (8, 11), I told them first that I was seeing someone and asked how they'd feel meeting her. Let THEM ask questions. Didn't show pictures, didn't oversell it, just answered what they asked.

When they met her a month later, no big drama. She came to a baseball game, got ice cream after, totally casual. Kids didn't feel blindsided and my ex couldn't accuse me of sneaking around. Win-win.