Is everyone doing fri-sun or does anyone do sat-sun? Curious about what the actual standard is or if it just varies by custody agreement. My lawyer mentioned I could push for fri-mon before school but that seems aggressive.
lol we've been doing sat-sun for 3 years now and it works but fri-sun is def the standard. only reason we don't is bc my ex's work schedule. honestly push for what makes sense for YOUR schedule - don't default to what's "normal" if it doesn't fit
Every custody agreement is different honestly. Mine's sat-sun bc my ex has weekday flexibility, but fri-sun is way more common from what I've seen in our local dad groups. The fri-mon thing your lawyer mentioned would be legit if school drop-off logistics work for both parents - that's actually a solid setup if the other parent can handle monday morning.
varies wildly depending on where you live and what both parents' schedules look like. we do sat-sun because my ex works weekends sometimes. the fri-mon thing is interesting tho - did your lawyer say the other parent has to agree or could you actually push for it unilaterally?
fri-mon sounds like a power move if the other parent goes for it. you'd get the pre-school chaos manageable time and extended time with the kids. but yeah definitely check if that requires negotiating or if your agreement already has flexibility built in
fri-mon could actually backfire if the other parent says you're trying to cut into their weekday time. just a heads up - courts get weird about "before school" stuff sometimes even if it sounds logical. stick with fri-sun or sat-sun unless there's a really good reason
It just varies. I do every other week fri-sun and every other week I pick him up monday after school instead. Gives us flexibility so neither of us feels locked into the exact same rhythm every single time.
our custody agreement literally just says 'alternate weekends' so we adapted to what worked. started fri-sun, moved to sat-sun after my kid joined soccer league. point is nobody's policing you - if both parents agree to something that works better for school/work, that's your standard
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fri-sun is what our agreement says but honestly sat-sun would be better for us. fri pickup after work is always a nightmare with traffic and the kids being tired from school. your lawyer's fri-mon idea sounds solid if you can swing the school logistics
lol the 'before school' part is the thing nobody talks about. everyone acts like fri-sun is standard but then when you actually try to execute it with school runs it's chaos. we ended up doing sat-mon which gives us extra time monday morning