She keeps moving pickup times last minute

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3d ago1 min read

This is driving me insane. We agreed on Fridays at 6pm for pickups but my ex calls or texts at 4pm saying she needs to move it to 7 or 8 because something came up. Then I have to rearrange my whole evening. When I ask her to stick to the schedule she says I'm being rigid and not flexible for the kids. But flexibility goes both ways right? I've started keeping screenshots of every schedule change. Is that petty or is it documenting a pattern for my lawyer?

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RRob H.Regular3d ago

Man, that would drive me crazy too. I'd document those last-minute changes and maybe send her a text saying you need to stick to the agreement for your schedule's sake. Soccer practice and my kids' routines depend on consistency.

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AAndrew T.New Dad3d ago

I feel you man. When my work schedule is unpredictable anyway, the one thing I need locked in is pickup time. Maybe a conversation about how this affects your ability to plan the evening would help.

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SSteve L.Regular3d ago

This is tough because it throws off homework time and bedtime routines on my end. Have you tried setting a hard cutoff like 'any changes need 48 hours notice' and sticking to it?

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