Every other weekend she changes plans last minute. Says I need to be flexible but it feels deliberate. Last month I had to cancel on my family because she decided to switch days three times. My lawyer says to document everything but it's exhausting. Anyone dealing with a parent who weaponizes the schedule?
I've been in that boat and it's frustrating as hell. You're not wrong to expect consistency - your kids deserve predictable time with you. Don't let 'be flexible' become code for 'your time doesn't matter.'
Man, that's rough. Last minute changes mess with your family time and honestly it's disrespectful to your schedule and your other kids. Document everything and maybe it's worth having a conversation about what 'flexibility' actually means.
I feel you. My ex used to pull the same thing and then act like I was being rigid when I called her out on it. You're not asking for much, just consistency so you can actually plan to be present with your kids.
Being flexible is good, but there's a huge difference between that and constant last minute chaos. Kids need to know when they're seeing their dad. Have you tried setting it up through a co-parenting app? Takes the he said she said out of it.
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That's frustrating. There's a difference between being flexible and just having no boundaries. Last minute changes every other weekend sounds less like flexibility and more like she's testing what she can get away with. Document everything and maybe bring it up with a mediator?