My ex just told me she got a job offer and wants to relocate. Says it's better for the kids but I'm pretty sure it's about being closer to her new boyfriend. I have custody every other weekend. Lawyer said we need to go to court over this. Anyone been through a custody modification case? How messy did it get?
Two hours is no joke when you're co-parenting. You'd go from regular weekday stuff to just weekends probably. I'd want to sit down and really talk through logistics before anything's decided - what does visitation actually look like, can you handle that drive, etc.
I feel you on this one. My ex and I had similar tension around a move decision, and honestly the best thing I did was focus on what's actually best for the kids rather than her motivations. That said, don't just accept it without a fight if you're not okay with the distance.
Man, that's a tough spot. Two hours is far enough that it really changes things. Have you talked to a family lawyer yet? You'll want to understand your rights before this moves forward, especially if custody arrangements haven't been officially modified.
That's a conversation that needs to happen about visitation. Two hours one way is a whole different ballgame than what you've probably got now. Don't just agree to it without thinking through logistics.
Two hours changes everything. That's not a quick drive for weekends anymore. Have you two talked about what this actually means for your custody arrangement?
I can't imagine dealing with this. Has she said anything about how often you'd get to see them? That's the real question here.
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This is rough man. I'd be stressed too. Better for the kids is what they always say, but what about better for you having actual time with them? Get a lawyer involved before things get messy.