My ex keeps wanting to swap weekends last minute without asking first, just telling me after the fact. Our agreement clearly says we need to communicate changes in advance. I've been flexible because I want to see the kids, but now she acts like the schedule doesn't matter. When do I need to actually enforce this thing?
Yeah that's not cool. I learned the hard way that you gotta stick to the agreement boundaries or they get pushed further. Maybe send a text back saying you need 48 hours notice per the custody plan?
Yeah this happens to me too and it messes up my whole schedule. I started telling her no unless it's a real emergency now. You have to hold the boundary or she'll keep testing it.
That's frustrating. The agreement exists for a reason, mainly so both of you can plan your life around it. Have you tried documenting when she does this? Might need to get firmer about it if she keeps pushing boundaries.
Using a co-parenting app for scheduling requests actually helps with this stuff. Takes out the personal text drama and creates a paper trail. If she keeps violating the agreement, at least you've got documentation.
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That's frustrating man. The agreement exists for a reason and it protects both of you. I'd start documenting when she does this and maybe have a calm conversation about why the structure matters to you and your kids.