Should I pursue custody if she's not handling mental health?

2w ago1 min read

My ex has depression and anxiety and Ive been supportive about it. But lately shes been calling me saying shes having a hard time and asking if the kids can stay with me for a few extra days. This has happened 3 times in the last 2 months. I love my kids and want to help but Im worried shes using me as a band-aid instead of actually getting help. The kids are asking why they keep having unplanned sleepovers and its confusing them. I dont want to take her to court or make things worse but I also need to do whats best for them. Has anyone dealt with this?

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LLance K.Regular2w ago

That's a really tough situation. Being supportive of someone's mental health is one thing but if it's affecting her ability to parent then you have to think about what's best for your kid. Have you talked to a family lawyer about what your options actually are?

BBradRegular2w ago

This is really delicate. You want to be compassionate about her struggles but your kid's needs come first. Document everything and talk to a family law person before making any moves.

WWill S.Regular2w ago

That's a tough spot, man. You want to be supportive but you also gotta protect your kids. Trust your gut on what's best for them.

LLou P.Regular2w ago

Supporting her mental health is good, but your kids come first. If she's asking to have them less that might actually be the right call for everyone.

JJamesRegular2w ago

Supporting someone with depression is good but not at the expense of your child's wellbeing. If the kid is calling you upset and she's not handling things, that's a different conversation. You might need professional help mediating this.