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Son keeps asking why mommy and daddy don't live together anymore

3d ago·1 min read

We've been separated for 8 months now and have a pretty good routine with the kids. But my 5yo keeps asking questions about why we're not together. I don't want to trash his mom or make it weird. How do you guys handle this? I've been keeping it simple like 'we love you but mommy and daddy are happier living apart' but he's not satisfied with that. My ex and I actually get along okay, which I think helps, but I want to make sure I'm saying the right stuff.

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MMike R.New Dad3d ago

Mine's 6 now and still asks about it sometimes. Honest answers without oversharing work best - kids just need to know both parents love them and it's not their fault. Sounds like you're doing it right with the solid routine.

NNoah B.New Dad3d ago

That's a tough question to answer but you're already ahead by having a good co-parenting setup. I'd keep it simple and age-appropriate - kids that age mainly just need reassurance that they're loved by both of you.

KKevin M.New Dad2d ago

Eight months is still pretty fresh for a five year old. They don't really get the separation yet. Our counselor said keep the answer simple and age appropriate. Just 'sometimes grown ups don't live together but we both love you.'

SSteve H.Regular1d ago

This one hits hard. At five they're still processing. Make sure your routine is rock solid so he at least knows what to expect even if he doesn't understand why.

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MMike R.New Dad1d ago

He'll keep asking this for a while, honestly. Just answer it the same way every time and reassure him that both of you love him no matter what. Consistency matters more than a perfect explanation.