I'm seeing a therapist to work through some stuff from the divorce and to be a better parent. My ex mentioned something casually about hoping I'd "get help" and now I'm wondering if I should tell her I'm going? Don't want her thinking I'm unstable but also don't want to hide it. Thoughts?
Honestly? Tell her. Not because you owe her an explanation, but because it shows your kids that getting help is normal and nothing to hide. Plus if she said that stuff about hoping you'd 'get help,' she'll probably respect that you're actually doing it.
I wouldn't volunteer it unprompted, but if it comes up naturally, yeah. The fact that therapy is helping you be a better parent is the whole point—that benefits her too since she gets the kids.
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Keep it simple if you do tell her. "I started seeing someone to work through divorce stuff and be better for the kids." That's it. Don't make it about what she said or ask for approval. You're doing this for you and your kids.