Successfully navigated introducing new partner to the kids - here's what worked for us
After a lot of research and honestly therapy-recommended steps, I introduced my girlfriend to my boys (ages 7 and 9) last month. Here's what I did:
- Waited 7-8 months
- Kept first meetings casual (sports practice, not a formal dinner)
- Didn't push anything
- Let them get used to her gradually over a few hangouts
- She didn't try to be their parent or compete with their mom
It's been smooth. No drama with my ex. Kids like her. They call it "dad's friend" still and that's cool. Everyone moves at their own pace but this framework actually worked instead of my original "move fast and hope for the best" plan lol
This is solid stuff. The not pushing anything is key - kids can feel when adults are trying to force a connection. Letting it develop naturally is the way. How are things going now?