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Telling the kids about the divorce
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Patrick M.New Dad
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We're separating and I have no idea how to tell our 6 and 9 year old. The 9 year old already knows something's up because we've been quieter around each other. My ex and I agreed to tell them together this Saturday. My lawyer said to keep it simple and not badmouth the other parent, which I get, but I'm terrified they're going to blame me or think it's their fault. Any dads been through this recently? What did you actually say?
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The hardest part is when they ask why. I'd recommend having an age-appropriate answer ready before you talk to them. Something simple like 'sometimes people grow apart' without bad-mouthing the other parent, no matter how tempting.
Your 6 year old might not fully get it at first and that's okay. Just keep reassuring them about the schedule, like 'You'll be with dad on these days and mom on these days.' Kids do better with concrete stuff they can understand.