My ex keeps having our daughter relay messages to me instead of just texting me directly. Like yesterday she had her tell me she needs to switch weekends. I don't want my kid to be a go-between and it puts her in a weird position. I've tried to tell my ex to just communicate with me directly but she says it's easier to ask the kids. How do I enforce this boundary without making things worse?
Yeah that's not cool. I deal with the same thing sometimes and it puts the kids in a weird spot. Text her back that you need her to communicate directly with you about schedule stuff. Keep it professional and don't let the kids be the go-between.
That's not okay. Your daughter shouldn't be the messenger service. Have you straight up told your ex that this needs to stop and that you'll only respond to direct communication from her?
This stuff can mess with your daughter more than you might realize. She shouldn't feel like she has to be the bridge between you two. Adults need to handle adult communication.
Using your kid as a go-between is putting her in an uncomfortable position and it's not fair to her. I'd set a hard boundary there. Maybe one conversation and then you just don't engage with messages through your daughter.
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That's frustrating as hell. My ex used to do this and I shut it down quick by just telling her she needs to communicate with me directly and the kids aren't messengers. You gotta set that boundary now before it becomes the normal.